Ok i fixed it. I don't know if there was a MS driver update or not but i did a overkill driver reinstall and things started working. Unfortunately i didn't write down things and it has been a while so i cant remember exact names for things. let me know if you need clarification and ill try to put together a better how to when i have time.
First open device manager. find the usb host/controllers/devices block. the wireless reciever does NOT show up under the HID section
Plug in your wireless transmitter and watch for things to appear. select it/them and delete them.
click "scan for new hardware" from the toolbar.
Driver will reinstall.
Re-calibrate the controller and try mapping axes in AVWW again.
if that doesn't work unplug all usb devices except the wireless reciever and delete everything under that folder. This could be dangerous if you are running system drives or critical hardware over usb so be smart about this. This will uninstall the drivers for your usb hub as well. More than likely you will need to have the install disk/download the drivers manually and could cause yourself some pain if you don't know what you are doing here.
Before you decide to try the last step note, I ended up liking the keyboard controls better.
edit: wanted to repeat I'm using windows 7 which is a lot more forgiving when reinstalling drivers than XP. the same procedure should work in xp but you might have to locate this possibly mythical driver update manually.