Alright, I went from 3.1.
to 3.709 then today's update before I played again.
WHY is the game like this, its nearly impossible to get a co-op game setup.
Before we had no issues while using hamachi, now we can connect as me as the host but we can't launch the game.
There is no ready check for the host and the game won't let me start the game until I click ready.
I'm using Windows 7 64bit and my buddy uses Windows Vista 64bit.
Since we couldn't start a game I cheated starting a game.
I started a single player game and managed players to add my buddy a slot.
Then 1 minute into the game the AI unloaded 500 ships into my home planet and we lost. Yay.
I miss playing ai war now.