I am playing 3.050, seed 1125488281.
I do not think this is golem-related, all raids have been by mk I ships only. There is a devourer golem somewhere nearby, but it was eating enemy ships last I scouted it, and noone seemed to run away from it. Also, the raids that killed me were all scheduled raids, ie. announced in an alert.
And I am not complaining, it is partially my own fault. I have set myself up against a Vicious Raider in all games, combined with a Zenith Descendant for a game or two, then a Mad Bomber, and then a Starfleet Commander. I guess my problem is that I am on a grid map, my home worlds have had no less than six entrances. Which means FRD is not very effective: There is always some small unscheduled raid going on somewhere, a few strayers at some wormhole, beginning 60 seconds in. They draw away my fleet, and then when the serious raids arrives with fast ships, my fleet is in the wrong location. And before I can get back to my homeworld, kaboom.
I find the grid maps challenging: There are plenty of opportunities for knowledge raiding, if I can hold on to my hubs. Well, I can't. The plan was to grab a lot of Raiders with my Parasites, thus bolstering my fleet early on. This tactic works most of the time, but seemingly not today. I grab a lot of ships allright, but I am low on ressources due to my turrets getting destroyed, so neither the ships nor the turrets get repaired very fast.
What is not my fault is that the ais seem to have learned to synchronize their scheduled attacks. I guess it has to do with the grid map, enemy warp gates being equidistant from my home planet or something(?). Or perhaps I am just not very lucky today. I am definitely not as good at this as I thought - yet.
Now I have had a break, and time to think, and I am ready to try again. My new plan is to unlock tractor beams mk III right away, they are a lot more cost-effective. If I can survive this first hour, I am pretty sure that I can establish and maintain a foothold on my home planet, so that I can get on with some warp- and knowledge raiding.